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Passed over for a promotion

Friday, March 22, 2013 - 2:19 pm

Q.: I've been in a job for two years, and I have been the assistant sales floor manager. A young lady who has been at the store not even a year has been promoted twice, while I haven't been promoted at all. I noticed about two weeks ago when I was in the back room that an assistant manager position paper was sitting out. I thought maybe they were going to ask me to accept it, but instead they offered it to her.

My manager told me as she was going out the door with her coat on, and she said we would talk about it next week.

I'm really upset.

What should I do? — Insulted, New York

A.: Take a few days to calm down. When you meet with your boss, ask why you were not offered the position. Tell her that you have been working for the last two years with the intention of advancing.

Describe your perception of the quality of your work. Ask if she agrees, then ask for her general opinion of your work. You do not want to put her on the spot, but it is valid for you to want to know why you were not invited to fill this position, since you think you are more seasoned than the other employee. Be sure to ask how you can align yourself for a future promotion.

If you get a bad feeling after talking to your manager, do not wait around. It may be a signal it is time to look for a new job.

Lifestylist and author Harriette Cole is president and creative director of Harriette Cole Media. You can send questions to or C/O Universal Uclick, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.