THE AMISH COOK: Gloria’s thoughts on love

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This year as I think of Valentine’s Day, my heart fills with joy. What is more beautiful than simply love? Whether it’s love for your spouse, from God, for God or to a friend or a hurting person, what is more motivating and comforting than love?

Realistically, we all know that true love isn’t just dropped from the sky and living happily ever after! Love is something that fascinates me. Whether it’s an older grandpa taking his wife to the grocery store, or memories of our courting days when I felt like a queen just to be Daniel’s best friend, love is intriguing and powerful.

As I think back to Daniel’s and my courtship days, I can’t help but smile at how I used to think it would be boring to be married for five or ten years. Yes, things do change, it’s not all new like it was at first. But it’s not a monotonous life. Neither is it boring. The ups and downs of life have brought us closer than we were on that incredible day when I was joined to Daniel, to be his for the rest of my life. I’m not going to tell you though, that I always felt these rosy feelings bubbling on the inside. There have been deep waters to wade. Life has brought changes, adjustments and responsibilities resulting in both of us trying to find our place in each other’s lives. As you can imagine, with three little ones being added to our home in four months, Daniel and I don’t have the time with one another as we used to. As you know, those rough spots have a way of turning into good when God gets hold of them. Today I feel incredibly blessed to be a team with my best friend, caring for these precious children we would never trade for anything in the world.

I was impressed recently when I read how a husband really needs to feel like he is primary in your life, even if you have little ones to care for. “How can this be done?” I wondered. While I don’t have all the answers, I love watching what happens when Daniel feels like he really does have top priority in my life. Okay, I don’t ever want to neglect my children, or have them feel pushed back in any way, it’s just that if I keep God first and honor my husband, a whole bunch of other things just fall into place. I have found that there are also many ways the children can be involved in doing things for Daddy. For example, yesterday afternoon he was in a meeting, and a little before supper time, the children helped me set the table with a table cloth and pretty dishes. We used a candle and a bowl with punch and fruit as our centerpieces. It wasn’t anything way out, but it was just enough to show that we love him, appreciate who he is in our lives and all he does for us.

It’s so thrilling for me to see our little ones develop a bond and relationship with their daddy, my husband. In case you’re thinking this all sounds too good or unrealistic, may I hasten to add that all this hasn’t happened overnight. In a sense, it seems like we just have fewer answers than ever, and find ourselves calling on God more to keep connections and relationships in perspective.

Many times I have had to think what an older lady, who I have come to appreciate deeply, once said, “If you feel like you deserve something from your husband, you are thinking wrong. We don’t deserve anything. All good things are gifts.” Hmmm… this has really gotten my attention more than once, and I needed to hear it. Love and affection, and even romance, take the back seat when we start thinking about ourselves and what we really think we need and deserve.

As paradoxical as it may seem, for me, the richest and enjoyable times in our marriage are those where I just surrender my ideas and will to God, and trust Daniel to make any decisions at hand. Trying to have things go my way never fails to leave me exhausted and worried.

Now as I think of Valentines’ Day, I ask myself, “Will it be about what I want and what makes me feel good? Or will I be there to make a difference in the life of my partner, or another person that needs love?”

A quick side note to all those of you who may be longing to experience love from a partner or special friend, and don’t have this opportunity for whatever reason, I encourage you to tell God just how you feel and invite him to show you his love for you as an individual. He cares.

Now, how about winding up with an Ooey-Gooey Chocolate Dessert? Cake mixes and instant puddings are convenience foods I rarely use, bit how about splurging for Valentine’s Day?

Ooey-Gooey Chocolate Dessert

BROWNIE LAYER:

1 package chocolate cake mix

¾ cup cold butter

1 egg, slightly beaten

FILLING:

1- 8 oz. Cream cheese

1 cup powdered sugar

1 cup whipped topping

PUDDING:

3 cups milk

1 pkg (3.9 oz) chocolate instant pudding

1 pkg (3.9oz) vanilla instant pudding

1 teaspoon instant coffee, opt

3 cups whipped topping

Chocolate shavings, opt.

In a large bowl, cut butter into cake mix until mixture resembles coarse crumbs. Add egg, mix well. Press into a greased 9X13 cake pan. Bake at 350 for 15-18 minutes or until set.

Beat cream cheese and powdered sugar; fold in 1 cup whipped topping. Spread over cooled crust, refrigerate until set. In a bowl, whisk together milk and both puddings. Let stand for 5 minutes or until slightly thickened. Spread over cream cheese mixture. Top with 3 cups whipped topping. Sprinkle with chocolate shavings. Refrigerate at least 2 hours before serving. Delicious served with ice cream.

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